Thursday, September 20, 2007

Here's to Angie

Today is Angie's 28th birthday. For those of you who don't know, Angie is our Nathaniel's birth mom ~ but that's just a small part of who she is in our lives. We met an 18 y/o Angie on June 28th 1997. I'm not sure who was more nervous, her or us. I mean really what do you say to someone who is giving you the most precious gift in the world, their child? Thank you just doesn't cut it. Those first two days of meeting her in the hospital are a bit blurry these days but what I do remember about Angie is that I "knew" she was meant to be in our lives and I think she knew it too. It was supposed to be a closed adoption and she was never to know who we were and we were never to know who she was but because that feeling between us was so strong her mom Judy managed to slip me her business card inside a present they left for Nathaniel ~ they rest, as they say, is history. We did send letters and pictures back and forth thru the agency like we were supposed to but it took an awfully long time and so Richard found Judy on the computer and the relationship really began. First we spoke on line, many times and for many hours and then when we went up to bring Jen to college for the first time (in a city about a half an hour from Angie) we took Nathaniel to see her and her family. It really confirmed everything we already knew ~ she was a part of our family.

I don't know if this is true of every birth mother but Angie loved and still loves that little boy with all her heart. While she was pregnant with him she took such good care of him and even named him( Nathaniel it is!). She made him the most precious "life book" with stories and pictures of his birth family and a letter you will never be able to read without tears. What she did in giving us this child was the most unselfish thing anyone has ever done. To love someone so much that you are willing to sacrifice yourself so they can have something better than you can give him yourself. I honestly don't know that I could be that strong ~ but she is. In the end though, she still has him in her life and he loves her and can tell her so anytime he wants or she needs! He even picked out his own card for her birthday today (the rest of us had to get our own). As for us, we got so much more than Nathaniel out of all of this. We love Angie with all our hearts and she is and will always be a very special part of our family. It does my heart good to see her and Nathaniel together and to know that I could give her that gift. After all she has given us, it's the least we can do and I always tell people that you never know where you will find love in your life and we got a very unexpected dose from our Angel Angie.

Happy Birthday Darlin' ~ We love you.

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